Stage 1 - Stage 2 - Stage 3 Discard

I've come to realise people are surprisingly methodic.

I used to think every single person was filled with surprises, new things, unexpected reactions, and such. I'm not so sure about that anymore.

Say the three stages of grieving or break up: stage 1 - need, nostalgia, heartbreak, begging for reconsideration, need for comfort, any chance to see, touch, feel the person you broke up with. stage 2 - the ice stage, the blame stage, thinking the other one's an ass, broke your heart, and with what right? evth he/she said was wrong, and he/she is a prick who is only thinking about him/herself. Hurtful words, angry calls, no filtering of insults, expression of hatred. stage 3 - Enlightment, resolution, understanding, consideration, sudden realisation that evth you conceived as real, was actually a misunderstanding, self esteem, appreciation of life, discarding.

Say the stages of relationships: stage 1 - sensitivity, demonstration of interest, appeal, attraction; dialogue, again, interest, in a different level, proposals, flirting, connection, finding similarities (a join the dots puzzle at this point, piece of cake), a little indifference; stage 2 - under-the-table suggestion, more sexual attraction, magnetism, interest, deeper talk, less chit chat, background checks, intercourse, more attraction, instinct taking over, more magnetism, chemistry, appeal, apparent bonding, chivalry, finding differences (a sudden brick to the face); stage 3 - balance, pros and cons, more indifference, appeal, attraction, only less animal, more thoughts, misinterpretations, vague, ambiguous suggestions, ideas, plans. Less demonstration of interest, routines breaking in, disappointment, appreciation of oneself, discarding.

Say the stages at a job: stage 1 - new job, appeal, happiness, nerves, curiosity, interest, eagerness to learn, sense of importance, uniqueness, unquestioned capabilities, abilities. stage 2 - finding stability, new value of one's work, one's insistence, fruitful results, happiness, eagerness to improve, confidence that one is indispensable, important, proactive, hard working. Stage 3 - finding errors, indifference, proactiveness discarded, feeling lack of importance, dullness, boredom, routine, more health issues, or apparent issues, psychological status modification, less interest, less spark, simple routine and comfort, less value of oneself, discarding.

So basically what I mean is....what is really the point? IF it all leads to the same, and please, please take into account the -allcaps- IF, what is really the point? We are no longer individuals, no longer interested in anything and the only thing we manage to do, repeatedly, is go through extremely similar stages, in different aspects of life...

To get by: discarding.

(nasty little word, so perfect for this)